◆ Private on this device
A quieter place for
what matters.
Take a moment to notice what’s here. Nothing is shared until you choose.
Gentle next steps
Small things waiting for your attention
A PRACTICE, NOT A VERDICT
Understanding is not the same as agreeing.
Try: “I think I understand why you experienced it that way.” You can make room for someone’s experience without giving up your own.
ONLY VISIBLE TO YOU
Your private journal
A place to understand a feeling before you decide whether to share it.
How to use this space
What it’s for: Write the raw version here first to slow down, name what you feel or need, and decide whether it should stay private, become a shared message, or form a repair request.
How to use it: Add reflections as they come. Nothing is shared unless you choose it. Once you have at least three entries, See patterns can offer an AI-generated perspective once per day.
What it’s not for: This space and its AI insights do not diagnose, give crisis support, decide who is right, or replace a counsellor or other professional care.
A LIVING GUIDE TO EACH OTHER
What helps us feel close
Needs aren’t demands. They’re useful directions for care.
What the Needs Board is for
Use this as a shared care map: the things that help each person feel close, safe, chosen, respected, or understood. Add needs as clear guidance, not accusations or tests. The original author can edit or delete their own needs as language gets clearer.
SMALL ITERATIONS, TOGETHER
Repair requests
Name what hurts, find the need underneath, then try one small action.
How repair requests work
A repair request is for something that needs attention, not a verdict on who is right. It works best when both people slow the conversation down: notice what happened, understand the impact, try one small action, then come back to review whether it helped.
If you are starting one: keep it specific and current. Name the experience, the feeling or need underneath, and the smallest useful next step. Avoid using this space to build a case; one clear request is easier to meet than a full history of pain.
If you are responding: read the request before answering, then complete What I heard in your own words. Reflect what you think they mean, what feeling may be underneath, and what they may need from you. After that, write a reply that begins with understanding before explaining, defending, or problem-solving.
Premium AI tools can compare your reflection or review wording, but they are optional. The ordinary reply path is always available once the reflection prompts are complete.
1 Notice→2 Understand→3 Try→4 Review
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Choose safety over resolution
If a conversation feels heated, pause and return when you both have more capacity.
WEEKLY CHECK-IN · ABOUT 5 MIN
How did this week feel?
Answer for yourself. Your partner will only see your responses when you choose to share them.
What this is for
A weekly check-in helps you notice patterns before they become fights. Answer from your own experience: what helped, what felt missing, and one small thing that could make next week gentler.
Saved check-ins
Your previous reflections, private to you.
A COMPANION, NEVER A REPLACEMENT
For counselling
Gather patterns, questions, and things that deserve supported conversation.
How to use this space
Save patterns, examples, questions, or agreements you may want to bring to a counsellor or supported conversation. This is a memory aid, not a substitute for professional care.
This space supports professional care
It does not diagnose, mediate, or replace a qualified counsellor. Bring only what feels safe and useful to your session.
YOUR DATA, YOUR CHOICE
Settings & privacy
Clear controls for your account and shared space.
Encrypted on this device
Your journal content is encrypted before being stored. Private content is never included in logs.
Export my data
Download a readable copy of your notes and check-ins.
Pause shared space
Temporarily stop new sharing without deleting anything.
Leave shared space
Disconnect from your partner. Your private journal stays yours.
If you feel unsafe
Between Us is not suitable for relationships involving abuse, coercive control, threats, stalking, or physical danger. Seek professional or emergency support in your area. Your safety matters more than repairing a conversation.
ACCOUNT ADMINISTRATION
Users
Account details only. Private reflections and other content are never available here.